June 5, 2007

img_0317_1_1.jpg“Look Mama. There’s a hummingbird in our garden.” My four-year-old Katie walks to within three feet of this tiny winged jewel and then turns to me to make sure I am sharing in this wondrous moment. Together we create a memory that in my haste I would have missed. My daughter once again reminds me that while this season of raising toddlers can be painfully slow, it is also delightfully sweet.

Not a day goes by that I don’t lament the tedious and sluggish nature of my life. It’s not that my schedule is not full, it’s just that it doesn’t seem that fulfilling. Diaper changes, laundry, cleaning sticky fingers. These are not the glamorous activities I dreamed of as a child. I had hoped to do so much more with my life. Sure, being a mom was one of the things I wanted to do. But I had no idea that giving life to two children would mean putting my life on hold.

Fortunately I have a choice. I can either let the dark clouds of resentment drown my days, or I can choose to focus on the rays of light that brighten my path. I must admit, my kids often make the choice for me. Their smiles are absolutely radiant. Even their tears shed light on the importance of my being fully present in this season of mothering. At times I go kicking and screaming, but when I finally embrace my life with little ones I am blinded by the joys that surround me.

Take the moon for example. Have you ever noticed its subtle beauty in the glare of the midday sky? At the pace of a toddler nothing is overlooked and everything becomes awe inspiring. A kitten sleeping beneath the daisies, a perfect letter “K” formed by tiny fingers, the fun to be found in an echo, echo, echo. With my kids leading the way these simple pleasures stop me in my tracks and beckon me to linger.

Now that I share my life with toddlers, every day is an adventure. The proud exclamation, “I did it,” has me running to discover the latest achievement of my brood. Sometimes I find the beaming face of James, my two-year-old, proudly standing over a pile of dirt he has carefully shoveled onto the patio. Sometimes I find Katie standing before me in a dress she has put on by herself. Always I find a child who is glad that mommy took the time to cheer her on and share in her moment of triumph.

Yes, this season of raising toddlers is difficult and consuming. It is filled with to-do lists interrupted by endless bouts of waiting. How long does it take a two-year-old to put on his shoes? But beyond the fatigue and routine I have found a world of self-discovery. I had no idea I could be so patient. “Yes Katie. I’d love to read ‘Sleeping Beauty’ to you again . . . and again . . . and again”. I’m actually good at setting and enforcing priorities. “James. Come help mommy put the mop away. It’s time to dance”. And now I know that I too prefer to eat pancakes that look like Mickey Mouse.

I still long for life in the fast lane; go for a jog, write a book, save the world and then stop for lunch. Unfortunately, at that frenetic pace life is a blur. Perhaps that is why God gifted moms with children: at the ambling speed of toddlers the exquisite details of life emerge. So it is here, in these toddler days, that I choose to slow down and savor the moments that are so incredibly sweet.



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6 Comments posted on "Toddler Days: Slow but Sweet"
randy smith on June 11th, 2007 at 12:17 pm #

Great letter


Line Levesque on June 14th, 2007 at 10:16 pm #

Dear Barbara; I love the way you write! Thank you for sharing this with us. My younger son is now going to be 16 on July 16th, and I feel as if it were yesterday that he was a toddler. (Sometimes I think he still is…hehe) Those are magical memories you are building for yourself because when they are older and hardly home due to school projects and friends, those memories come rushing in and remind you that you have helped these little beings to become who they are today. The praise is wonderful and the world of little hands are so peaceful to feel later in our minds memory. Missing out on that would be such a sin! Who else can share these moments with them, than us? It is not just for them, it is for us! It is a privilege being a parent. It is a privilege God has given us this wonderful gift to nourish with love and education, and wonderment. Through them we become more of who we are meant to be, the little child inside stays alive longer. We are creating future good people, caring individuals who will one day give this heritage to their own kids.
We might not accomplish getting the technical stuff that people who work do, but we sure finish God’s work wonderfully when we bless each moment we share with His heritage of love and caring in the eyes of the children.

Thank you for sharing, and God bless your family and little angels who are with you calling you mommy.

Line Levesque
Cambridge, Ontario.


Juanita on June 15th, 2007 at 1:31 pm #

My children are grown and have families of thier own now, I so wish I had spent more time with them..yes life is a blur.


Rich Roach on June 16th, 2007 at 4:28 am #

Thank you, Barb, for reminding me
of the riches that surround us every day.
Our girls are now approaching their teens,
and we remember – we remember and are thankful
for the riches we still and always will hold
inside our memories and hearts.

Rich


Cheryle Gagner on June 17th, 2007 at 11:34 am #

Just found you site. AWESOME! My children are both grown. My daughter and two granddaughters are living with my husband and me. What a joy those little girls are! I was fortunate enough to be a stay-at-home mom. My kids and I would crank up the radio and dance and have a great time. Life is too short to sweat the small stuff.


Suzanne on July 27th, 2007 at 6:44 am #

That’s such a cute picture of Katie… it definitely belongs in an art gallery or on a calendar…


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